Your Business is Thriving. Your Body Didn’t Get the Memo.
You made it. So why can’t you enjoy it?
I see you. Out there, working your butt off. Super successful. Envy of all your friends.
And, for the record, tense as hell.
Waiting for the other shoe to drop.
Sure that one wrong move will pull the whole thing down.
And I’m gonna hold your hand when I say this:
It’s because you’re trying to use success to solve a psychology issue.
A trust issue.
Possibly an eldest-daughter issue? (raises hand🙋♀️)
Success-on-paper might buy the bag...but it'll never prove to your body that you're safe. Unclench-your-jaw-level safety was never gonna be found in the spreadsheet.
I remember the first day I looked at Stripe and realized my business had crossed 7-figures for the year, and we were still in early November.
Can you guess what I felt?
Elation?🤸♀️ Joy?✨ Pride?🥇
Nope.
Honestly? Not freaking much.
Know why?
Because my nervous system is a primal animal keeping me safe, and she doesn’t give one hot sh*t about the numbers. (She chatted with yours. Yours agrees.)
So while I could intellectually celebrate the win (Go me! Girl boss vibes!), nothing landed in my body.
The Achievement Rerun
The real pattern every successful person knows way too well? The moment you win, the goalpost moves.
Which means all the work? All the stress to get there? You just signed up to do it again. And again. Forever. (No pressure.)
You Need to Rewrite the Rules
If you want to stay in this long term, I’m here with the best kind of bad news: you need to rewrite the rules. (Be honest–that’s always kind of been your thing.)
We need to redefine success, for you, in a way that actually lands and feels meaningful to your nervous system.
Forget the Big Flashy Fixes
And before you sign up for the monthlong yoga retreat in Guatemala, I’m not talking about creating big, flashy, LOOKATMEUNPLUGGGING life-moments.
I’m talking about finding that inner core inside of you that stays stable: in the wreckage, on the rocket to the top, and on every part of the ride in between.
I’m talking about honoring what drives you. The YOU deep down, before she ever heard words like side-hustle, seven figures, scaling.
Find the Goals That Actually Land
Not the ones your mastermind group claps for. Not the ones that sound good on a podcast bio but feel hollow as hell when you're alone in your kitchen at night. Beneath the noise of what the world says you should want? Your real goals. The ones that actually feel like home.
The ones that, when you achieve them, make your whole body relax.
Make your shoulders drop.
Give you that little tap from the Universe that says, “You did good, kid. Keep it up.”
Redefine Success—or Burn Out Trying
Because you have two choices: You can hit revenue…but still feel like a wreck. Or you can tap into your own inner knowing, your own nervous system–and use your business to create joy, deep satisfaction, and peace. (Maybe even the kind of peace that can make hitting those revenue goals meaningful again–and fun.)
And if that sounds impossible right now…I get it. But chasing a version of success that DOESN'T put your nervous system first only creates a life that...you don't really wanna have.
Rewrite the game. Tune into your body. Let her—not the pressure, not the hustle—define success. (Or at least unclench your jaw before you check Slack again.)
